I was debating about this topic with my boyfriend Kar the other day. I always believe things evolve and adapt themselves to stay alive in this world. Those who are weak and fail to change and adapt will be eliminated and be replaced by a stronger group. Humans evolution has been the greatest among all animals, although some may still believe that God made us human and weren't an evolved version of apes, I do believe we are the descendants apes, at least there are science evidences proving that. Anyway, I just realize that the way I thought was working all along wasn't likable to many. To be specific, I just realize I can't be acting like primary or high school student anymore. I used to ask a lot of questions in class as far as I remember, since I start to know how to think. Just that now, I finally know from my classmates of mine that keep bombarding questions in the class is not a pleasing thing to do. Perhaps my high curiosity that driven me to do so, but I didn't know that many actually thought it was annoying. Kar said it would only give people the impression of I am an attention whore who are hungry of attention. My classmates said that I am stubborn and refuse to accept others opinion. Kar said so too that day. I accepted his opinion when I finally understand the topic and this evening I was defending his stand to my classmates and I got the same comment. Then I realize the topic wasn't the problem at all. Probably the problem is me. My way of saying things or my way of holding my stand. Probably it's true what he said, sometimes you'll just need to go with the flow if the majority refuse to buy your proposal. That's the way of life. The reality isn't pleasing me because it would require me to be a hypocrite. However I can still keep my principle inside, unspoken but understood by myself. I'd like to survive in this world therefore I'll need to follow the social semiotic of who I'm dealing with. Evolve and survive, being weak will be eliminate. Thanks for those who actually pay attention debating with me and being honest to me, I learned a new thing today, sincerely. For God sake, I'm a communication student. I'd take whatever it needs to be a good communicator.
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4 comments:
annie,
sometimes we dont have to accept what people said, but theres no harm listening to them ~~~
we can always learn and find something new when we look at things in a different perspective...
共勉之 =)
Communication is about communicating ur ideas to others, not hiding them to get along with the crowd.
Maybe they think so because u dun listen to ppl when they are speaking. Listening is also a very important part in communication.
Yea, sometimes i'm annoyed by ppl who keep asking questions during class, but only ppl who ask stupid questions. If u think ur question is worth asking, then go ahead la! Screw those ppl.. They would learn something from ur questions too if they are not focusing on the annoyance. As for less important questions, try asking ur frens or asking lecturer privately b4 or after class.
I noe u discover ppl thinking that u are an attention seeker or a stubborn head, and it upsets u in some ways. But dun be sad. I believe all growth stages in our lives are like this. We meet something which doesn't go our way, it may upset us for a while, then we think of another way to adapt or cope to the situation. Do u think u will be contented with following the crowd and not fight for urself? I dunno wat is the best to do in this situation u are facing, but i noe that ignoring who u really are is not going to make the matter better. Try finding another way. If it doesn't work well, u always have a chance to change ur way again.
Dun worry, be happy =D
I like your new banner (more of the background, not the person...) :)
Annie,
I do agree with Wan Cheng that communication is about communicating your ideas to others, not hiding them to get a long with the crowd. And how listening is very important in communication. The key is however, to avoid misunderstandings and to build a more presentable image in the eyes of your audiences.
I believe that by being a communicator, your audiences is not only the people whom you choose to communicate, but more or less, everyone who is in your social circle. Why throw many questions during the class commencement when there are more subtle ways of doing it(ask personally before/after class)? You may think that your question worth a million bucks, but to some people or maybe to everyone else, your question is stupid or irrelevant.
You, as a communicator, must learn to put your audiences before yourself. For they determine your quality and standard and not you yourself. It is true when spoken in words, "one must not for go its roots, for it is from its roots, that one made a tree" However, having to do what is said in reality, is pretty tricky. You must never ignore your true self nor reveal who you really are, but however, comments and critiques and dissatisfactions about you from others mustn't be ignored as well.
Your solution here is being liberal since that is the school of thought that you are from, learn to be liberal. I believe that in life, there are times where we rise and fall. When you rise, take pride and hold glory upon it and when you fall, heed my words, "Roll with the punches, Live and Learn"
Cheers,
Kar
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